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It’s all about how you see it. If you want to hate your pregnancy, you’re going to and it’s going to be hell for you. If you’re going to love a pregnancy, it’s so easy to embrace it.
A reaction to something lies completely in you, it’s no one else’s fault if you tear yourself up over something that was created to be a gift. The most wonderful gift you could ever be given.
God bless this girl and her baby!
Beautiful. I always have trouble fathoming how in a world with so much technology we still allow people to be so ignorant. Not only are abortion facilities like Planned Parenthood anti women but they NEVER have the woman’s best interest in mind. Children are gifts from God and we need to be thankful for them! YAY FOR KIDS!
Okay, I’m going to have to stop you right there. Things like this make me really upset, and here’s why.
Note that I am in no way criticizing the girl in the picture. I am so happy that becoming pregnant has been such a positive event for her, and I truly hope that she and her child have a wonderful life.
However, just because this one particular person has decided that they want to bring the pregnancy to term and to raise their child, does not mean that every other person who becomes pregnant will or should feel this way.There are SO MANY FACTORS that keep people from ‘easily embracing’ their pregnancy, and SO MANY REASONS why they would feel the need to terminate said pregnancy. Very often, it is not an issue of ‘attitude’ that makes a pregnant person seek an abortion: they may not be financially, emotionally, or physically capable of having a child. This girl’s ‘best interest’ may have been carrying the pregnancy to term…but sometimes, it is in a pregnant person’s best interest to get an abortion. This is not an act of ignorance. This is an act of choosing what is, hopefully, the right course of action for them.
Speaking of choice: this girl CHOSE to remain pregnant. She CHOSE to view it as a ‘gift’. Many people CHOOSE not to, and that is perfectly okay as well.
And to address the commentary about children being ‘gifts from God’. Far too often, there has been an equation of ‘pro-choice’ with ‘anti-child’. This is simply not the case. I am pro-choice, and proudly so. I’m also in school to become a teacher. I’ve been volunteering with kids for almost three years now, and I adore them. And it is because I love kids that I am pro-choice. I want all the kids I teach to have a loving, capable family that wanted them. I do not want them to be the by-product of a forced pregnancy. I would be fucking ecstatic if we lived in a world where all children were viewed as ‘gifts’ and were ‘thankful’ for them. But we don’t. Not everyone is capable of or wants to be a parent: being able to physically create a child does not = capacity for parenthood. (And before we get into it, adoption is an alternative to parenthood, not to pregnancy).
I want any of the 13 year old girls I work with to know that if they get pregnant, they have the option to an abortion. It is BECAUSE I love kids that I triumph access to safe and legal abortion, because I could not bear to see any of them dead or mutilated from back alley or self-inflicted procedures. I want all my students to know that they have rights over their own bodies, their own fates, and will never be forced to carry a pregnancy to term if they do not want to. I want my students to grow into fantastic and capable people in a society that respects their rights more than the rights of an unborn embryo or fetus.
You can be sure as hell that when I become a teacher, I will remind my students everyday that they matter. You can be sure as hell that, if and when I choose to have kids, I will be ready for them and treat them like gifts, and be thankful every single day for them. And you can be sure as hell that I will never, ever, stop advocating for access to safe and legal abortion.
You bring up a very good point many young women may not be financially and or emotionally ready to have a child. That is why we have this beautiful process called adoption.Adoption allows couples who either can’t have children of their own or just want another smiling addition to their family adopt a child. This is one of the most pro women,pro-life and pro-children options available during a pregnancy.During ones pregnancy you have three options, 1. have the baby! 2. abort your baby. 3. Adoption. Adoption is part of the pregnancy because during the adoption process their are support groups, therapy and many more services available to women if they would like it. I am a strong advocate for Adoption because of how much love is involved. Obviously, people will try to argue that the child will not feel loved. But each child is hand picked my their adoptive parents…That child was chosen by that couple- out of hundreds of children in the world, that baby was chosen. and that it something special. I am actually offended that you could refer to a child as anything but ” A gift from God”. Everyone has problems and hardships throughout their lives but it certainty does not diminish their right to life. As a young woman, I am a strong supporter of women rights. I believe you have the right over your body. If you want a tattoo, do it. If you want to dye your hair purple. Do it. But humans don’t have the right to murder a child because it isn’t convenient for them. We don’t have a right to brutally mutilate and kill a baby. What about that child’s choice? Remember the last time we believed it was okay to decide what happen to other people- for our convenience? It’s called slavery. If as women we cannot stick together and protect each other, how can we demand that other people respect us? I have never associated someone who is pro-abortion to be anti child as well. Pro abortion people can and are productive citizens of society but they are also misinformed. Are children really special? what if they were going to be born with a heart condition, or an intellectual disabilities or not the gender you were hoping for. If one truly believed EVERY child was special, we would not being mercilessly killing thousands of children because there a problem or their “quality of life might not be very high”. I believe every single child is special. Whether they are conceived during wed lock, a high school party or even rape.( Interesting fact: only 1% of all abortions are due to rape or incest) I am fighting for women rights. Women deserve to be educated. I am fighting for life. Every child deserves to live. And most importantly, I am fighting for God. When Jesus was crucified. Don’t you think that was inconvenient for him? Do you think he was emotionally ready to be brutally murdered? I think not. But Jesus died for you and me because he loves us. Jesus died so that all our sins can be forgiven. Because through him hopefully one day we will meet the father, our Lord. And when I see him one day, I want to be able to look and say,”look at what I did for you Lord. Look at what I did. I stopped the brutal mutilation and destruction of your precious gifts, your beautiful children. I educated people and showed them that being pro women is a synonym for pro life.’ I don’t want to have to look back and realize that I could have done something more. I am not here to accuse, bash or argue with people. I am here to inform. “A person’s a person no matter how small.” and that’s all it really comes down to.
I have never once said that I am against adoption. My mother and aunt were both adopted, the result of a teen pregnancy in a very conservative town. I think that adoption has the potential to be a very beautiful thing. HOWEVER, there are serious issues with your ‘rah rah adoption’ argument.
I stated in my previous post, very clearly, that adoption is an alternative to PARENTHOOD, not to PREGNANCY. It is not an option “during your pregnancy”…it is an option for what happens post-pregnancy. It in no way alleviates someone from going through 9 months of pregnancy.
There are so many emotional, physical, financial and societal issues that can arise from pregnancy… I’m going to focus in on the last three because I think only a shell of a human being could fail to see why being forcibly pregnant (especially if the pregnancy is the result of rape or incest) is horrible for the person involved. Being pregnant changes your body, even if you are lucky enough to be able to bear a child without any complications. There are so many possible side-effects of pregnancy including a higher risk of infection, an inability to take certain kinds of medication (which, for lots of people, is very harmful for them. When my mom was pregnant she was unable to take the medication that prevented her from having crippling panic-attacks and severe anxiety disorder), painful or even fatal delivery, and post-partum depression. There is also the issue of finances that comes from being pregnant, including the ease with which many pregnant people can be laid off , as well as the additional costs of being pregnant such as visits to the physician, and neo-natal care. Finally, there are the societal costs that can come with pregnancy… my high school only ever had one pregnant girl, and she was completely ostracized and judged daily. The stigma of unwed or young pregnant people is huge, be it by bystanders or by friends and family.
Now, I’m going to step away from the problems faced by the pregnant person and go on to address issues that face children that are given up for adoption. You stated that adopted children are guaranteed love because they are ‘hand picked’ by their parents. Herein lies a huge problem: what makes for a ‘worthy’ child? What qualities make that child likely to get adopted? Sadly, in many cases, children of colour, children with disabilities, and older children are overlooked by people seeking to adopt children. In addition, the sheer magnitude of children in the adoptive system means that for every ‘special’ child that is selected, there are many more who are not.
Also, when the hell did I say that a child is not a ‘gift’? When did I ever say that a child is less-than because of their gender, physical, or intellectual level? When did I ever fucking say that I do not view children as ‘special’? You clearly missed the whole point of my post. I do think that children are wonderful and amazing, and THEY DESERVE EQUALLY WONDERFUL AND AMAZING PARENTS. They deserve to be brought into a world as planned and appreciated beings. Children deserve all the rights and freedoms and opportunities that we can provide for them. And you know what is one of the best gifts we can bestow on children? THE RIGHT TO HAVE CONTROL OVER THEIR OWN BODIES. THE RIGHT TO HAVE A SAY IN WHEN AND IF THEY WILL HAVE CHILDREN OF THEIR OWN. THE RIGHT TO KNOW THAT THEY, AS AUTONOMOUS HUMAN BEINGS HAVE MORE RIGHTS THAN UNBORN FETUSES AND EMBRYOS. THE RIGHT TO KNOW THAT WE VALUE A LIFE THAT IS CURRENTLY BEING LED MORE THAN A LIFE THAT HAS NOT EVEN BEEN BROUGHT TO FRUITION YET.
Your use of fallacies and improper terminology astounds me. Abortion is a safe, legal, medical procedure that terminates a pregnancy, ie: removes an embryo or fetus. It is NOT killing/slaughtering/maiming a BABY or a CHILD. And yes, abortion is different than making changes in physical appearance like hair dye or tattoos. But it is still an act of bodily sovereignty. It is allowing people to control their own damn bodies and keeping your religious viewpoints out of other people’s uteri.
I’m not even going to begin to address your association with slavery and abortion, other than to say it is highly offensive to compare the enslavement, torture, and slaughter of autonomous, living people to a medical procedure that removes a clump of cells. I’m also not going to point out the fact that the Dr. Seus quote you used is void because the author himself was very pro-choice and hates that pro-lifers are using his work to further their own agenda. And I’d also like to point out that many people do not believe in a Christian god, or even a god at all, so your references to Biblical views and actions SHOULD NEVER be allowed to impact society because of a little thing known as separation of church and state. If you believe in a God, in Jesus, that is fantastic. But your religious views have no right dictating laws regarding what other people can or cannot do.
I’m pro-choice. I’m a productive member of society. I might not be ‘fighting for the Lord’ like you are, but I’m fighting for the rights of women, of people with uteri, and of children. I want to be able to look back on my life and say, either to myself or to God, that I educated people on why pro-life does NOT equate with pro-woman. That I helped my students realize their full potential and their right to control what happens to their own body. I want to look back and see that I never, ever, ever let people use fallacies or guilt to silence me. THAT is what I want to be able to say at the end of my life: that I tried my damnedest.